Love Signs by Linda Goodman – Leo and Sagittarius

In relationships, identical sun signs cancel out so their individual moon signs become the prevalent factor of synastry.
The LEO-SAGITTARIUS Relationship
“When playing Follow my Leader . . .”
Leo is a Fixed Sign. Sagittarius is a Mutable. Since neither of them was born under a Cardinal Sign of leadership, you’d think they’d sooner or later realize there can never be a permanent winner between them in the competitive game of which one shall lead – which one shall follow, and give it up as a tiresome conflict that takes a lot of time they could otherwise spend doing a number of jolly things side by side, cooperatively.
You’d think so, but although there are lots of Lions, Lionesses and Archers who do take such a sensible attitude toward their association, there are a goodly number of others who insist on concentrating all their flaming energies (both are Fire Signs) toward determining who shall take (or not take) orders from whom. Still, even with these, the mutual challenges tossed back and forth tend to be friendly and good natured, because Leo and Sag are influenced by the 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern of natural empathy and easily attainable harmony (not always, but most of the time) so that the competitive sparks between them are more likely to result in a refreshing sort of exhilaration than in envious resentment. If they enjoy competing so much, why not allow them to have their fun? We might as well grant them our own and astrology’s permission, because these two will do just exactly as they please in the long run anyway.
They’re both independent,and prefer to learn through the experience of their own mistakes than to be counseled by well-meaning people.When these two masculine signs entangle their temperaments, whether by choice (in a friendship or love relationship) or by Destiny’s design (as relatives within the family circle, or business associates forced into professional proximity) outsiders who stand by and watch have nearly as much fun as the two participants themselves.
Leo was born to command, lecture, guide and counsel.  Born free. Sagittarius was born to rebel against being commanded, refuses to be lectured, guided or counseled – and was also born free! Clearly, as smooth as their association may be most of the time, there will come moments when something has to give. It won’t be Leo. And it won’t be Sag. The Centaurs and the Big Cats might be said to represent the ultimate in eternal stand-offs. Should their Luminaries be in favorable aspect between their natal charts, the blending of their super-bright auras often creates an almost visible rainbow around these two, coloring their clashes with the soft shades of forgiveness and fresh beginnings.
Sagittarius is ruled by and stamped with Jupiter’s expansive generosity and idealism. Leo is ruled by and stamped with the benevolent warmth of the Sun itself. So there’s plenty of contagious enthusiasm and genuine affection they can fortunately exchange if they choose, with the power to jet- propel them toward any seemingly impossible goal or ambition they seek as individuals, or as a team. Aside from their heated quarrels, incited by their equally fiery tempers, Leo and Sag can bring to each other – and to the world – much happiness. There’s a lot of vibrant activity and energy flowing when they’re together, along with a considerable amount of good will.

The name of the most ferocious dragon of dispute that threatens the tranquility of this sympathetic 5-9 combination will be spelled in bright red, flaming letters: PRIDE. The typical Sag is ordinarily blissfully unaware of the meaning of the word. Archers may be feisty and spunky; they may refuse to be pushed around by bullies, but the truth is that they aren’t really hung-up on false pride. They’ll cheerfully laugh at jokes on themselves, and are often the very ones who tell them! Thanks to Jupiter’s philosophical outlook, Sagittarians see no reason to feel guilty or embarrassed, just because they happen to possess a few short comings. After all, doesn’t everyone? No. Everyone does not. Leos possess none whatsoever. Just ask them. No shortcomings. No flaws. The Lions and Lionesses can do no wrong. Everything they say or do is right. Always. Royalty is infallible, protected from error. Leo’s judgment is at all times sound, sensible and wise. Also practical. And quite naturally, superior to all other judgments. Everyone knows that. Everyone but Sag.
The Archer will delight in punching Leo’s plump velvet pillows of pride with a powerful verbal right hook, time and time again. The more Leo’s pride gets punctured, the louder the Lion or Lioness will roar. As always when fire fans fire, the “expansive” Jupiter temper will then be ignited by Leo’s arrogant roaring, and things can get explosive. The possibilities of harmonious compatibility between Leo and Sagittarius are so potentially rich and rewarding, it’s really a shame for the Archers to spoil it by failing to realize the need to constantly and carefully consider that too many thorns thrust into the Lion’s paw can cause Leo to stalk away permanently, in wounded and outraged indignation.

The male Lion can’t bear to be placed in the humbling posture of explaining his behavior to anyone, not even to his wife. Apologies are painful for Leos of either sex, especially when the transgression was caused by the “harmless prank” of someone else, and Leo must shoulder the undeserved blame. If the Sagittarian man or woman takes care not to cross the line of safety with a Sun-ruled friend, relative, business associate, lover or mate, the Jupiter  proclivity for holding up a mirror to Leo’s occasional flaws and mistakes (yes,even Leos can have them and make them, for all their superiority) is a healthy habit. It will gradually lead the Lion and Lioness to unbend their regal manners a bit, and acquire the much needed quality of realistic self-appraisal. Just so Sag does it with a degree of tact (which will probably take more than a little practice). The Sagittarian blunt candor, when it’s reasonably controlled, is a blessing in disguise to Leos. The Big Cats become more tolerant and much nicer to be around, once they’ve relaxed their stiff pride, and are able to mingle more graciously with the lesser animals in the astrological zoo. Of course, the Archers aren’t guilty of making all the blunders in this association.
Leos are guilty of a few errors in judgment themselves, when it comes to handling the merry, but decidedly willful Sagittarians. Like those long Leonine lectures, delivered with such a smug, self-righteous air. The typical Archer will become clearly restless at being forced to sit through the repeated counseling sessions of a pedantic Pussycat, then after a time, ZING! will go one of those bull’s-eye arrows of truth straight into the vulnerable ego of the Lion or Lioness. “If you’re so smart, why did you almost flunk high school? You only got your college degree because your father knew the Dean.” Or maybe, “I may not be able to keep a checkbook balanced, as you say, but at least I didn’t take out bankruptcy three times, like you did.” Perhaps … “So what if I do embarrass you by talking too much in front of your friends? You happen to embarrass me too, with those corny jokes you tell over and over, till everyone’s bored, the way you’re always bragging – and those gawd-awful loud clothes you wear. You look like a peacock posing in a barnyard. And you really should stop eating all that rich food. You’re beginning to get a jelly roll around your waistline. If you can’t stop stuffing your mouth, at least you could jog a few miles a day, like I do. Or play some tennis with me once in awhile. At your age, you can’t afford to let your muscles get flabby. “It shouldn’t take long for Leo to learn to go easy in trying to curb the Archer’s sense of individuality, and to recognize his (or her) need of free expression, without the restriction of constant advice.
Lions and Lionesses learn quickly, and Sag is a tough and verbally agile lion tamer. Leo, being a Fixed Sign, is more stubborn than Sagittarius. And so after one of them has caused melancholy emotions in the other, it almost always must be the Archer who initiates the repair of a temporary crack in the relationship. Otherwise it can grow into an increasing coldness that will take some time to thaw. Leos tend to freeze in icy dignity when they’ve been injured, but the heat of two Fire Signs will eventually melt frozen hearts, especially two hearts as large and as warmed by the Sun and Jupiter as those of Leo and Sagittarius.
When their scars have healed, Sag will develop the knack of aiming that Jupiter bow of truth toward a more positive target, such as giving Leo the much longed-for gift of honest appreciation and forthright respect – while the Lion or Lioness will slowly but surely comprehend that, although the Archers may impulsively get tangled up in a ton of troubles by ignoring advice, they’re also blessed with amazing streaks of pure luck, and will often unexpectedly manage to find a happy ending to their own stories – if they’re given what they most long for, which is simply to be trusted. Sagittarians secretly want Leo’s practical, benevolent guidance (when it doesn’t take the form of commands), and they also need the strong net of Leo’s protection to catch them when they fall from their swinging trapezes, just as the noble Kings and Queens of the jungle (and elsewhere) are secretly thrilled by the Archer’s colorful tumbling acts, admire the Sagittarian integrity – and respond warmly to Jupiter’s unshakable faith. When these two courageous and generous Sun Signs link their ideals into a chain of cooperation, then weld it with patient recognition of each others’ demand for independence, it will never rain on their circus parade.

Leo Man and Sagittarius Woman

“Now listen, thee, and listen well
I do not like thee, Doctor Fell
Exactly why I cannot tell
But I do not like thee, Doctor Fell”
This, of course, is true of all 5-9 Patterns, not Leo and Sag alone. In a similar, but opposite manner, there are men and women whose natal Suns form the traditionally tense and difficult 4-10 Pattern, yet whose other birth chart configurations are powerfully beneficent, and who therefore discover together an easy compatibility. Still, it must be remembered that these are the exceptions which prove the rule.Consequently, not every Sagittarian girl claps her hands in delighted admiration at the cleverness and superiority of the Lion. Some girl Archers will refuse to clap, or to pay, for that matter, any kind of tribute to Leo’s virtues – and a few will even dare to hiss the King of the jungle when he’s showing off his talents. There’s not much use taking up space discussing these occasionally mismatched and clearly mismated Leo men and Sag women. Not only would they be bored by reading about one another, but there are all those magnetically attracted and destined to mate stormily-but-passionately feminine Centaurs and the lovable Lions who truly adore them to consider. So, best to concentrate our attention on these Leo-Sag couples, and counsel the others to search elsewhere for happiness and harmony.
Even though not every Leo man and Sagittarian woman are fated to meet and fall genuinely in love, those who do will forge a bond that’s not easy to break, but they will all make an attempt! These two may at various times appear to share only one thing in common – a mutual desire to pound each others’ healthy egos into trembling inferiority complexes. Don’t be fooled. Appearances are deceiving, more times than not. What they are actually doing is testing their relationship, through an odd combination of simultaneously seeking an affirmation and a denial. An affirmation of mutual loyalty and devotion – and a denial of an equally mutual fear of being deceived by the faith in one another eternally required by love. It’s a game quite natural to Fire Signs, and Leo and Sag both having been born into Fire Elements, they learn the rules swiftly. If they’re lucky (and thankfully, most Leos and Sagittarians are uncommonly lucky, though not all) they’ll learn reasonably soon what a wealth of happy hours they’re choosing to waste by playing the testing game. If they’re not so lucky, and their normally fortunate individual natal Suns were afflicted at birth, they’ll take a long time, and exchange a lot of emotional bruises before they comprehend how foolishly they’re behaving.
For example, the Lion will go far beyond what he well knows is fair in arrogantly bossing around the girl Archer he loves, commanding her to obey his wishes, or else be banished from his sunny smile and his warm, strong arms – expecting her to wait on him like a scullery maid, lecturing or scolding her sternly for the slightest disobedience of his Majesty’s pleasure, and permitting her no freedom of opinion or outside activity where she might in some way equal or outshine his own accomplishments. He’s not really a tyrant, and he neither wants nor intends to be cruel and despotic. He’s only silently, desperately (often unconsciously) playing the testing game, seeking an affirmation of her loyalty, proof of her devotion – by seeing how willing she is to submit, how far he can go with her before she admits she doesn’t love him as much as she vowed she did in the beginning. (But praying fervently all the while that she does.) Then he’ll test her by seeking, not a positive affirmation, but a denial. He’ll either rage and roar, or pout and sulk over her merest “hello” to another man, accusing her of everything short of (and even including) outright adultery, without the faintest foundation or cause, secretly longing and achingly needing her repeated denial that she could ever even think of betraying him with someone else. The more outraged and indignant she becomes, the more clear the denial – and the more secure he feels.
Taking turns, she’ll then make her move around the board in their romantic monopoly game. Being fully aware (her mind is very bright and quick) of how hungry this man always is for sincere compliments, she’ll deliberately starve him, refusing to give him the smallest crumb of admiration, no matter how hard he tries to impress her. She’s testing him, you see, to see how furiously he’ll try to succeed, how high he’ll climb, what impossible challenges he’ll conquer to gain her attention and applause. How much is it worth to him? If he stops caring what she thinks, it means he doesn’t love her, as he swore he did at first. Then, also fully aware of how he suffers from having his masculine pride trampled before his friends, she’ll deliberately embarrass him when there’s an audience, by putting him down, or telling some private story about him that makes him look ridiculous. Secretly (often unconsciously), she’s hoping he’ll be loudly angry and furious with her later, when they’re alone, treating her to a display of fury, as only an aroused Lion can, proving to her that he loves her, that she’s the only one who has the power to fire his emotions into such leaping flames. As for the denial part of the game, the rules are the same for her as they are for him. She’ll become bitterly sarcastic and accusatory every time he leaves her to go somewhere alone, making it vividly clear that he’s not fooling her she knows about his promiscuous behavior with worshiping females when he’s out of her sight, because one woman isn’t enough to satisfy his erotic jungle lust. While, in her heart, she knows he’s not being unfaithful, either by word or deed. But she needs fiercely to hear his impassioned denial… see it in his eyes.
Isn’t that an immature, frustrating and leading-nowhere game for a man and woman who love each other to play? Because she’s Mutable (more adaptable) and he’s Fixed (stubborn), she’s the one who should be first to communicate her weariness with the testing – her desire to start all over and return to the way it used to be with them, when they held hands trustingly, like happy children, touching tenderly, full of the joy of discovering a new miracle together every morning. When everything he did was wonderful, and filled her with worship and everything she said was magical and dear and funny. When just the nearness of his warm strength and calm wisdom made her tremble, when her  brave clown grin made his heart turn over, and brought a lump to his throat, as he promised himself he’d protect her forever, and never allow anyone to hurt this cheerful and giving, yet so terribly vulnerable woman – ever again – the way so many people did before he found her. That’s all she has to do – make the first move to talk it over. Just be her honest, real self. And say exactly what she feels. Pretending is a part Sagittarius can never play successfully. He’ll make the second move, and do something he’d never do with anyone else but her. He’ll confess how wrong he’s been, how many mistakes he’s made, how very, very sorry he is, how fallible and human and frightened he is on the inside, at the very moment he’s projecting such confidence and icy detachment on the outside. She’ll apologize too, then, for all the thorns she stuck in his big, lovable Lion’s paw that caused him such pain, and for all those times of make believing she doubted his loyalty. They’ll both admit that, all through the tortuous testing time, they were always able to read the truth in each others’ eyes, never mind what either of them were saying. Words don’t matter. After a while, when they have nothing more to communicate in any way at all, they’ll fall asleep together in the darkness, and in the morning, they’ll awaken as intimately familiar strangers, hearing the same music they heard the very first morning they awoke to the sunlight of knowing the lonely search was over. Exploring the mysteries of each other was just the beginning. This time, the music is sweeter, the chords are deeper, because they know the rhythm and the melody by heart. Best of all, they’ve learned the words to a new song of honesty, that could maybe someday grow into a symphony. They almost lost each other, but they stopped playing the game before the truth left their eyes.
The Leo man and the Sagittarian woman are among the lucky ones whose moments of passion and affection are interchangeable, their needs first gentle, then intense – whether they’re blending their bodies, their spirits or their minds. The ones whose auras clash (like those mentioned in the beginning of this section) will never touch at all, either mentally, spiritually or  physically, and will forever look upon each other with the eyes of apathy. But with the Lions and the Archers who are destined to love, Life is a magical carnival of ideas and ideals, dreams and discovery. They stimulate in each other  physical desire, intellectual seeking and spiritual reaching.
Once they’ve broken down the barriers of his false pride and her skepticism – and allow their relationship enough sunlight to encourage his warm enthusiasm and her fresh faith in the future, they won’t have time for playing games. Their days and nights will be filled with a thousand adventures, whether they’re traveling somewhere together (which they’ll do a lot) or just lying in the grass in their own back yard on a summer night, counting the stars and listening to the crickets’ choir.
She should beware of being caught in his clever Lion trap, though – and refrain from correcting him when he points to Spica in the sky, and she’s tempted to tell him he’s actually pointing to Arcturus. He knows. He’s just testing her knowledge of astronomy. When she finally knows – that he always knows – they’re half-way home.
If they must play games, there are hundreds more fun than the testing game. She should give him one for his August birthday, tied with orange-yellow-golden ribbons, the color of the Sun … and maybe scribble a poem on the card, to give him a hint of how it should be between them from now on, when they think they’re about to weaken, and go back to their old ways.
Lovers play games of No and Yes,
A quick caress, a sigh… goodbye and why?
Lovers play games of Yes and No
Of Stop and Go…of wait and fate too late
They laugh when they want to cry
Leave when they’d rather stay
They quit when they need to try
And lie… when they walk away
Lovers play games to save face
So I’ll tell you what we’ll do
We’ll play Monopoly, you and I
 Just for a change of pace
You grab the railroads and buy Boardwalk
And I’ll hang on to Park Place*

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